What Nobody Explained in Health Class

By late 2013, marriage equality was gaining real traction in the US, which meant a certain kind of straight person was increasingly confronted with gay sex as an actual physical practice rather than an abstract political position. Davey Wavey made a video for exactly those people—a cheerful, frank explanation of how two men have sex, delivered with the patience of someone who has answered this question too many times already.

The punchline, which should surprise nobody, is that it’s not that different. The specific logistics vary. The preferences and roles and negotiations vary. But desire is desire, and the basic human machinery of it—the wanting, the deciding, the doing—translates across the obvious differences. Shocking, I know.

What I find more interesting than the content is what the video’s existence said about the moment. A grown adult in 2013 could genuinely not know—not through stupidity but because an entire system of education and media had collectively declined to address it. Davey Wavey doing a YouTube tutorial is doing the work that sex ed never bothered with. Unglamorous, necessary, and kind of funny all at once.